Good Evening to Everyone,
Today is officially a Family Reunion. A day of reminiscing, laughter and eating a lot of good food.
Yet is not so in many families, communities and states. A lot of middle-class families like myself are struggling financially with grown adults living at home, not working and having large debts in school loans.
To make it worse, these grown adults can be disrespectful to their parents on a daily basis and do not care about their audience. At times, their audience may be young minds who are very influenced by the poor example of grown siblings and irresponsible parents not living in the same residence as the youngsters.
This creates toxic chaos at home while the responsible parent living in residence with both age groups a decade plus apart. As a middle age parent, I have sacrificed my whole life for my own family close or afar.
In return, I have entitled grown up adult child who makes his/her best to drive me insane with his /her daily assaults on my intelligence, lack of fashion, lack of technological comprehension, lack of attractiveness, calling the responsible parent who is paying all the bills calling her she looks like a homeless and ready to take a pic snap at her, lack of empathy , blame the supporting parent for their employment loss due to chronic , complex abusive language or physical threat endured by their own children and ex- spouse poking deliberately at your self-esteem, blaming the responsible parent why she /he did not prevent her/him in selecting majors, while at the time of initial major selection, teenager at that time declined adamantly recommendation of the Caring and Financially responsible parent.
Today, and always in the past, Financial parent agrees and accepts any verbal put down by a non contributing adult child who thrilled her self heard when she /he has youngsters as an audience.
The responsible parent pleads with the adult child whom she is supporting 100% to return full time to school and give her/him a second chance at a flourishing career that the responsible parent had suggested when the adult child was a teenager.
The unemployed, abused parent physically and verbally abused by an ex is seeing a Deja vu pattern: abusive, entitled, boldly disrespectful, grabbing personal item from the Financially Responsible parent and threatens to put the Responsible parent in a Retiring Residence threatens the adult child. The verbal put down drives the Financially Responsible run to a chapel and asks for Divine guidance because she wants to help all her children.
As abusive behavior escalated and has been witnessed daily and constantly by youngsters who witnessed from tender age of seven foul language by irresponsible parent is now reinforced by adult sibling. As a result, youngsters start to treat the Responsible Financial parent with no respect, calling her vulgar languages as well as in letter “B” and physically attacking the Responsible Financial parent anytime, the parent instructs youngster some positive information that is quickly negated each time by the adult child.
After years of abuse from an ex that I did not want to let go of with the mindset marriage is forever, Our Father has finally given me the strength to fight back all 3 persons in my life that I cherish. Today, I declined to be a doormat for abuse from a youngster, an adult child, and an aggressive ex.
For sure, I am deeply hurt by the behavior of those who I love dearly. My youngster states he wished that I was dead. That is very disheartening for I love all my children before they were born from my womb. I am in no way perfect, but I am loyal, honest, truthful, hardworking, family sacrificing individual.
I will not dare ask why me? For He who’s perfect was wrongly charged, flagged and crucified by the Romans officers and Resurrected to give us abundant life.
I am grateful that I am alive, healthy, joyful in God for he sends me daily his angels to minister my wounds. I am asking for personal positive transformation to let go of the pain, and the positive transformation of all my three children and my ex.
I lay awake at night most of the time, unable to sleep despite high doses of medications to induce sleep. I did not anticipate this lifestyle, abused, abandoned, disrespected by those who I would gladly die for.
I thank My Savior for His constant caring for me for I am joyful despite my pain. I am loved despite the fact that I am disrespected by loved ones. I also thank Him for restoring hearing in my deaf ear for years of being deaf in that ear. I am also grateful to live in this beautiful country USA given by Our ForeFathers.
The Forefathers in my own land are restless in their mausoleums seeing my homeland that is now in abject poverty for years. So much so, there is no hope for better days. The Nations that come to help
establish Peace are raping, stealing, physically abusing the people they send them to help. My only consolation for my homeland, as the inhabitants are dying of hunger, poor hygiene, lack of medicare, malnutrition and so much more. They are being received in the hands of The Lord where there would be no more pain, but only joy. This joy that I claim today and I will not let go until I see Him Face to Face.